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AITA I told my friend there was rumors going around about her and it was told by my ex best friend. | ​ Hello I'm writing this to see if im the asshole or not. Today i meet up with a friend and she was talking about my ex best friend non-stop. I got frustrated and told her be aware of who ur talking too cuase there are rumors behind ur back.i didn't tell the name of the friend but she put 2 and 2 together and f... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wepgjo/aita_i_told_my_friend_there_was_rumors_going/ | null | 1 | 1 | Thanks for submitting your story to r/amithejerk! Stories posted here can get featured on the **Am I the Jerk?** show. Check to see if your story made it on: **[YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/@amithejerk)** | **[Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/show/0uEkxvRMpxLuuHeyPVVioF)**. New episodes drop **[daily](https://you... | Hi! Quick reminder about **Rule #3: please add a TL;DR.** A TL;DR is a one or two sentence summary at the end of your post so readers can quickly understand the situation. For example: > tl;dr - I told my mum that her sitting in on her son's interview cost him the job Adding one helps people decide if they want to r... | null |
Update: aitj for not wanting to spend time with my boyfriends mom who has never liked me | So my boyfriend i had a talk about how he should just have an open and honest conversation with his mom about everything, and how what she's said has affected us and how i feel. One thing I didn't mention in my original post is that even if his mom was to come visit, our house isnt ready for guests. I have mental healt... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1weo8xm/update_aitj_for_not_wanting_to_spend_time_with_my/ | null | 1 | 1 | Lord listing all those issues how are you in a relationship to be honestly??? You need to see professional help!! Just referencing a show on TLC says all I need to know! | Can he visit her? | Can he visit her? |
AITJ for leaving my family movie night because my father screamed at me? | ​ So this happened 20 mins ago me my sibling and my father were watching a movie ( evil bong 2 king bong I had the remote and I asked everyone which movie we wanted to start with my father was angry at this and shouted at me asking so I quickly picked the first one I could (being the one I stated) After a whi... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wenpl8/aitj_for_leaving_my_family_movie_night_because_my/ | null | 1 | 1 | NTJ. Dad is a mean drunk. | Nobody was watching them and they were going gone for 5 to 7 minutes | NTJ, but why would you skip through the credits? It's PART OF THE MOVIE. |
AITJ for divorcing my wife over a heinous deception? | Now to put this bluntly we got married about four months ago, only because my wife claimed she was very religious and she only wanted to have children born legitamately in marriage in the eyes of her faith. I wanted kids and she wanted kids so i said okay we had simply low cost church wedding and we got a robust prenup... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1welhvd/aitj_for_divorcing_my_wife_over_a_heinous/ | null | 1 | 1 | Ntj since she deceived u | 1. Yes, even properly placed IUDS can ***shift*** or even perforate the uterus, which very much ***can*** affect fertility afterwards. Also, if it is a ***hormone*** IUD it most definitely is ***likely*** to cause longer-term infertility. 2. OP's wife, and many other women, most definitely ***have*** wanted more perma... | Cry much? Wahhhhhhhh YTA |
WIBTJ if I asked my mother to buy me new tennis shoes? | A few months ago I mentioned that I wanted new tennis shoes to my mother and I chose a pair and she ordered them for me. I got them and I didn’t mind them, but she said white shoes wouldn’t be a great choice because they can get dirty quickly, and so I gave in to peer pressure and said yeah you’re right. So instead s... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wefh91/wibtj_if_i_asked_my_mother_to_buy_me_new_tennis/ | null | 1 | 1 | I just thought it was funny. | I hit join conversation and it put it here. Why are you worried about it? | Why are you asking a bot how old it is? |
AITJ - coworker testing boundaries over shared office? | Hello reddit! Need some insite on a coworker conflict. I am 28F, I am interverted, people pleasure who just wants to do their work and go home. For context, ive been working at my company for 5 years, I run payroll for a small construction company. I value my work probably a bit too much to be honest... I deal with ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wefe88/aitj_coworker_testing_boundaries_over_shared/ | null | 1 | 1 | I get it. Rumination is REAL. | The sad part is, I was willing to work with her, and compromise my own feelings for her just to keep the peace. I agree fresh air is good, i wish the window wasnt directly in my face. I didn't mention this in the original post but my desk is also directly above a air vent that blasts AC on me, so that with the window a... | Our brains are wired differently. It’s a fact. We see things being equal and fair as life or death with actual physiological reactions. Of you lie to be able to look outside at the sky and the trees and she wants that covered? That’s a big compromise. Having freezing cold air come in an open window for 30 minutes a day... |
AITJ for telling my friend (with benefits) that he doesn't seem to care much about me? | So I've been in a sort of situationship/fwb type thing with this guy since January. For the purposes of this post, let's call him Jim. Jim and I met at work years ago, and became friendly there and kept in touch after he switched jobs. Back then we were both in relationships, and we were just friends. When I got out o... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1we9adm/aitj_for_telling_my_friend_with_benefits_that_he/ | null | 1 | 1 | Oh wow, that's next level shitty. Worse than Jim, tbh. I hope you found someone better, or at least got to have some peace on your own! | Yep. This is why I stopped doing "casual". I was just a free sex worker and therapist. | Lol it's a LOT pathetic! He's an admitted asshole but doesn't deserve to be called out? Let the ick wash over you...because he'll be back when he realizes you're not biting. |
Am I the jerk for finally treating my friend like they treat me? | ​ I have a friend who apparently considers me a friend whenever it's convenient and an optional extra whenever there are actual plans involved. They repeatedly hang out with other people and don't invite me. Not once. Not twice. Enough times that pretending I haven't noticed would require me to be deliberately... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1we6es0/am_i_the_jerk_for_finally_treating_my_friend_like/ | null | 1 | 1 | Nope | The only scenario that is even potentially defendable is when a single friend meets 'the one' and all of her friends are already married. At that point you may be in different stages of your life - you, still single, going to bars and clubs; your friend, now in a relationship, doing dinner parties at home with marri... | NTJ, you are learning a lesson some people never learn no matter how many times it is presented to them. If someone doesn’t bring something positive to your life you should not have time for them or include them in your life. Three chances is all anyone should get to show you who they are, believe them and change wha... |
Please judge whether I’m the jerk in this argument with my husband | Ok so I made a post the other day about how I spent $2000 on my business. My husband and I had both agreed that I would do it and he said he is happy with me spending any money I am making on expanding my business. i told him Sunday night that I would submit the paperwork for the deal. Monday morning I told him I pai... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1we5pf7/please_judge_whether_im_the_jerk_in_this_argument/ | null | 1 | 1 | Are you a thrice divorced woman who hates men? | NTJ, but he is. | NTA but why does he ever get a say in your business expenses for your business? Its ok to ask for input but not ok to ask for permission. Its just business |
AITJ: I blocked former roommate after all I'd dealt with with her. | I lived with this person for two years. I was essentially forced to move in April because she moved due to not liking the third roommate. She was the primary leaseholder, and when a leaseholder leaves in that building, everyone has to also. I did want to move away from her, but preferred to stay another year to avoid ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wdqxc9/aitj_i_blocked_former_roommate_after_all_id_dealt/ | null | 1 | 1 | It’s always a possibility… | You afraid she'll show up? | OP Good Luck on living where you want to. Keep your Ex roommate blocked and keep saying NOOOOOOOOO |
My dad got angry for waiting 30 minutes while I waited 2 hours | Hey I'm newly 16 female and my dad picks me up from school while my mom drops me off. So at school I leave at 14:45/2:45 and on Wednesday I called my dad after cause he wasn't there he told me that he'll be coming late so I should go back to school and wait by the gate. That dsy he picked me up 2 hours later the sun wa... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wdievf/my_dad_got_angry_for_waiting_30_minutes_while_i/ | null | 1 | 1 | I did say sorry the moment I got in his car | Your dad is a real jerk. you should have been honest about your need for food. And it’s his responsibility to make sure you’re safe and he did not do that. | I wish your Dad would talk with someone who can help him be reasonable. I would think that using the school’s transportation system is far less likely to result in pregnancy than being extremely sheltered and not feeling able to talk to him when something is wrong. Good luck. I wish people didn’t make each other’s li... |
AITJ for wanting my friend to move out despite the fact she just moved in? | (It might be long?) Ok so I (18f) got a text from my friend stating that she was going through things with her family and if she moved out would my mom let her stay with us? I of course said yes because we’ve been friends since the eighth grade and I asked what things were happening, she said that it was just a toxic e... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wdbvj7/aitj_for_wanting_my_friend_to_move_out_despite/ | null | 9 | 25 | In general, it's not cool to invite someone to stay with you and then almost immediately tell them it isn't going to work and they need to leave. So people were shitting on you about that. They also probably saw similar things to me and thought that you should have known how she is, so it's your fault for bringing a pr... | NTJ. You tried to help a friend in crisis, but you quickly realized her chaotic choices and lack of boundaries endanger your own peace and safety. You aren't obligated to turn your home into a landing pad for her self-destruction. Give her a firm, calm exit deadline, stay out of the drama, and enforce that boundary. | and that’s why i’m thinking of maybe telling her she has to leave but like everyone was shitting on me at first. I have never been around her for more than a day or two before, I think actually having her in my face and in my room consistently is what made me realize i have to love you from a distance. |
AITJ for being hurt and upset at my brother and sister in law? | A few weeks ago, I(15f) had an argument with my brother(23m) and sister in law(20f) about me not wanting to go to their baby shower because I had gotten into a huge fight with my ex step sisters, who in that argument fat shamed me, called me a d!ck rider, made fun of me for being pansexual(mind you, one of them is bise... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wdbust/aitj_for_being_hurt_and_upset_at_my_brother_and/ | null | 5 | 34 | It doesn't matter, it'll certainly have a bathroom. Make sure your phone is fully charged and entertain yourself until it's over. | Just hide in the bathroom and pretend to have diarrhea. No one questions that. | And my brother is constantly rude to me for no reason so idrc about him, my sister in law is really nice tho |
AITJ for suing my stepmother after my dad passed? | My dad recently passed away from a heart attack right in my arms. While I am devastated, I immediately had to step up and deal with his businesses. By law, the ownership is technically in my stepmom’s name right now. Originally, she kept trying to hand over full ownership to me, but I knew I had to sue her anyway to pr... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wdbcjb/aitj_for_suing_my_stepmother_after_my_dad_passed/ | null | 0 | 15 | This has to be bait right? | Agreed. Ugg boots as a luxury item? Uggs are what bogans wear. Luxury item they are not. | So she was willing to hand over the company to you ? I fail to understand how it makes her a gold digger. You then sued her for what exactly ? Thf company she wss giving you ? The rest of your father's estate ? You'd want her to have nothing ? Then when you finally had that precious company you decided it was too m7c... |
AITJ for distracting my brother’s girlfriend by watching a show? | This is my first time posting on the ATIA Subreddit. I (17F) live with my mother, my brother (23M) and my brother’s girlfriend (23F) who I’ll call Tracey (this is not her real name) I typically lie in my bedroom when I watch movies, shows, ect but today I decided to watch my favourite show, Avatar the last Airbend... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wd75g7/aitj_for_distracting_my_brothers_girlfriend_by/ | null | 192 | 31 | You didn't do a thing wrong, the girlfriend made the choice to talk with you. Tell your brother to stick his attitude where the sun doesn't shine | NTJ You did nothing wrong. I think you need to start rehearsing the phrase "Kiss my ass!" And perhaps also "Don't try to dump your shit on me." Your brother was a complete asshole here. | Brother shouldve been mad at the situation not OP. yelling at a 17yo over this is unnecessary |
AITJ for thinking i dont have a victim mindset? | And its not even only them. This is a pattern that keeps coming back in my life. Starting with my mother. I was a scapegoat in childhood and i feel like i still am. I always speak up about the family trauma and how i was a parentified child from very early on. The sub doesnt allow way to heavy topics but think a 12/13... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wd574o/aitj_for_thinking_i_dont_have_a_victim_mindset/ | null | 1 | 13 | Stop putting yourself through this. Dump the BF, why would you even want to stay with him? And maybe take a pause from contact with your mother. She doesn't really sound like a healthy influence. Also, go to therapy, create some self esteem and some boundaries. You can do it OP! You desserve better, deep down you know... | you can acknowledge your trauma without making it your identity | A complete mess, like completely. I cut ties with them both and have my first appointment on the 28th |
AITJ for feeling this way? | Trigger Warning: >!Assault/DV!< I \[29F) have been friends with Vee (31M) ever since the second year of high school. Vee and I have never really constantly talked, but every few weeks or so, one of us reaches out. Quite often he messages me with things that are going wrong in his life. For context: His ex is a sensit... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wd3wzk/aitj_for_feeling_this_way/ | null | 2 | 5 | Absolutely, regardless of gender, both sexes are capable of it. I told him he needed to report things and he said the local cops wouldn't believe him. I asked "have they come when she's had the cops called on her by others?". He said "yeah, they asked if I was ok". I said "well, why wouldn't they believe you when they ... | Maybe they meant WhatsApp video. | I have it still downloaded via APK files, as does he. |
AITJ for taking my friend seriously when he told me to leave him alone? | AITA for taking my friend seriously when he told me to leave him alone? There’s a guy I’m friends with, and he’s in a group chat with me and my best friend. At some point, my best friend and I started noticing a pattern in the way he spoke to us. Nothing that would make the evening news, but enough small instances of... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wd21vv/aitj_for_taking_my_friend_seriously_when_he_told/ | null | 24 | 13 | How do you know that "leaving him alone" was not the "right" response? What did he do or say or what happened? You don't say. | OP is a nutcase. Or a bot. Possibly both. https://arctic-shift.photon-reddit.com/search?fun=posts\_search&author=SirGlittering4412&limit=10&sort=desc | Goddam, that is not healthy |
I make space for my wife | We have a jack and Jill bathroom. When I leave the room I pass her if she's brushing her teeth she'll sometimes bend over, and I think she's spitting but she's actually trying to rub up on me. I guess I didn't realize that. AITJ? | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wczyxi/i_make_space_for_my_wife/ | null | 1 | 5 | She's flirting | Post removed due to not following the AITJ posting guidelines. Please review and follow the guidelines. Edit in accordance with the guidelines and then resubmit your post. Thank you, AITJ 🤠 Am I the Jerk? | No one is a the jerk. Misinterpretation of non verbal signals can happen, but now you know to be on the lookout 😉 |
Am I the jerk for thinking about ending things with my boyfriend because he might be trans? | I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 10 years now and I really love him. But recently he’s been talking about how he’s been very confused with himself and doesn’t know what’s going on but feels very feminine and think that he might be trans and I do love him very much, but I’ve been very stressed out because when I sa... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wczi73/am_i_the_jerk_for_thinking_about_ending_things/ | null | 34 | 47 | You are allowed to have preferences. It’s great they feel they can be open with you and you are allowed to be open with them, too. Do you feel you could still be a good friend? | Definitely NTJ. People change throughout their lives, albeit some changes are bigger than others. But if someone changes enough, they could end up being different enough that you’re just not attracted to them anymore. These things happen. | Nobody's the bad guy here, they're being honest about who they are, and OP is being honest about what she's attracted to. That doesn't make her a horrible person. |
Aitj for lying about my boyfriend to my parents and where I am going? | I’m 17F and I’ve been dating my boyfriend, 19M, for almost a month now. I haven’t told my family about him because I come from a very traditional and conservative family, and religious family i already know they would not be okay with me dating. I’ve been lying a lot about where I’m going and who I’m with just so I can... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wczhq4/aitj_for_lying_about_my_boyfriend_to_my_parents/ | null | 11 | 13 | You already know the answer to your question. Lying to your parents is not only wrong but dangerous! How do you expect to gain your parents trust when you're lying to them. You are also putting your "boyfriend" in a tough situation. 1) depending upon where you live, your parents could press charges as you're a minor an... | Hi! Quick reminder about **Rule #3: please add a TL;DR.** A TL;DR is a one or two sentence summary at the end of your post so readers can quickly understand the situation. For example: > tl;dr - I told my mum that her sitting in on her son's interview cost him the job Adding one helps people decide if they want to r... | In March, he turns 20 in November, Sj was supposed tk be So |
AITJ for not accepting my ex friend's reason for dropping me? | Just yesterday, I (19F) got a text from one of my (ex) friends (18F) from my main friend group. She basically told me that she doesn't want to associate with me anymore because "being around me drains her". Her main reasoning for this was because I apparently had been very rude to her last month. The rude behavior sh... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wcr21u/aitj_for_not_accepting_my_ex_friends_reason_for/ | null | 0 | 52 | Literally stopped at, "The rude behavior she's referring to is just my way of joking." Jokes are suppose to be funny to more than just you, and now you are upset she is setting a healthy boundary. YTJ | Hmm in my opinion when people refuse to take accountability by saying 'it's just my humour' or something similar, they are usually the problem since they are willingly dismissing another's feelings/perspective... 🤷♀️ | You’re one of those people that toss around insults then claim it’s just a joke. Here’s a solid fact. You are in face a jerk and an AH. Instead of accepting that you hurt her feelings and likely those of the others in the group, you claim it’s bc they can’t take a joke. Good for them on establishing and holding to thei... |
AITJ for not forgive my moms ex now that he's trying to be better? | For some backstory into this ex he and my mom got together i was 16 the first 2 years was fine he seemed okay, the next 6 were miserable, he was verbally, mentally and emotionally abusive to me and my 2 siblings (my 3rd moved out the moment just before he was 18 it was so bad) I was 18 he got diagnosed with cancer and ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wcmknb/aitj_for_not_forgive_my_moms_ex_now_that_hes/ | null | 60 | 30 | Ntj. Your feelings are very valid. Besides no one gets to control how you feel about someone | NTA. Forgiveness is a gift to the person who wronged you. It is not a get-out-of-jail-free card; most importantly, it’s not *owed*\* by the person who was wronged. If he apologizes to you,accept it in the spirit that he offering it—an olive branch. | NTJ. You are not responsible for how you feel. You are not a sociopath for not feeling empathy for someone who abused you. Your mom didn’t protect you all those years he abused you and she also responsible for that. Maybe asking you to forgive him is a way for her to ask you to forgive her. Because if you forgive him s... |
AITJ for not wanting to hang with my friend group who is always broke? | I25m have 2 friend groups I’ve been close with with since middle school/highschool. One of the these we will call group b has always been very weird with money. For example, if we go to get fast food half of them will claim to have no form of payment and need someone to spot them and they can pay back later. Same t... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wclonm/aitj_for_not_wanting_to_hang_with_my_friend_group/ | null | 393 | 63 | You’re not fake, your values have shifted and they can’t access the world you are at so they are mad. This stuff happens over time. We fade in and out of circles. Congrats on leveling up. Keep taking care of you. | That was definitely a shit joke to make, but I understand where your coming from it kinda seems like they are leeching off you, but then again you still game with them and that should be enough for them especially if they never have money, weird situation, the money joke was a dick move but in the situation id say ntj | Agreed. It's not about being broke, it's about being moochers who expect free rides at 25. |
AITJ for snitching on my whole class? | This was 3/4 years ago I had no friends and I was always alone. I tried to make friends, but I always felt left out and like I was just following them around so i gave up and accepted that they didnt want to be friends. It started when we were in class doing some work and there was this girl that went purposely sit in... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wciiit/aitj_for_snitching_on_my_whole_class/ | null | 13 | 21 | NTJ but it sucks they didn’t get any real punishment. Next time find a way to get hard evidence because there probably will be a next time. | Let's be real, you didn't do it because cheating is wrong, you did it out of pure spite. But honestly? Good for you. You don't owe loyalty to people who treat you like a pariah and actively bully you. ESH (Everyone Sucks Here) technically, but it’s the most justified petty revenge ever | NTJ Karma occurred |
UPDATE : AITJ my coworker who used my work to get promoted is now blaming me for his project falling behind | Thank you to everyone who commented on my original post, your replies helped me realize that refusing to do someone else's work again doesn't make me bitter.. Earlier this week, my coworker approached me and asked if I could "quickly review" part of his new project./ It sounded suspiciously similar to how everythin... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wcgrzw/update_aitj_my_coworker_who_used_my_work_to_get/ | null | 3,489 | 505 | Love paper trails, love frauds self destructing lol. Telling him to email/message you the details isn't even being uncooperative, you're already in middle of something & will look into it later. Those ppl avoiding you due to all the gossips... Buh, they're not even worth talking to lol. | this is ridiculous on your part. Why did not not say to your manager that you were totally willing to help, you just asked for an email so you had the exact assignment in writing so you could refer back to it (or something to that extent)? | This is something you absolutely need to get out in front of. Get to HR and your manager with the receipts and also documentation of the harassment you’re getting. |
AITJ for telling my cousin she’s an idiot and blocking her? | I’m an 18-year-old male, and my cousin “Nay” is 21F. We haven’t always had the best relationship, but recently we had gotten back on good terms. Nay has had terrible experiences with men, but she constantly tells me that all men are trash and that I should settle for the best of the worst. I completely disagree, especi... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wcaveh/aitj_for_telling_my_cousin_shes_an_idiot_and/ | null | 92 | 22 | Yeah, I also had to cut off a cousin who made being the poor-me victim of her long series of incredibly stupid life choices her whole personality. | NTJ - You didn't drive her (literally or figuratively) to go confront the alleged mistress. Blaming you when you hadn't spoken to Nay in weeks is bs. You refused to get involved and here comes your aunt trying to involve you again! Some (stupid) cannot read between the lines. I see your refusal to participate as you ad... | If a person chooses not to learn from their mistakes, and does the same thing over and over, it’s hard to have empathy and cutting them off is sometimes the only thing you can do. |
AITJ for cancelling my date with a guy that wanted to reschedule? | I started talking to a guy online and we immediately hit it off; he explicitly said in his bio “no penpals” and quickly asked me out on a date. He agreed to meet me four days later in my hometown, which would involve two buses – around a three-hour journey. We messaged day and night for the next few days, and had two ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wca80c/aitj_for_cancelling_my_date_with_a_guy_that/ | null | 4 | 15 | Sounds way too dramatic for a person you haven't met in person yet. Seems like a bullet was dodged. | My feeling is that there's some red flags there and you should run for your life. | No you can do what you like You obviously have a lot of self respect; he had the chance to date you but blew it Now he’ll never know His loss NTJ |
AITJ: Move in with former roommate? | I lived with this person for two years. I was essentially forced to move in October 2025 because she moved due to not liking the third roommate. She was the primary leaseholder, and when a leaseholder leaves in that building, everyone has to also. My current lease is month to month, and the landlord would prefer a y... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wc8mgc/aitj_move_in_with_former_roommate/ | null | 0 | 11 | OP You've posted this elsewhere I read it recently. Did you not like the answer you received the first time? | Not surprising to find that out. It seemed familiar to me also. | Fatal Attraction. |
AITJ for moving out of my dad's house the same day I turned 18? | TLDR: I moved out of my dad's house the same day I turned 18 to live with my boyfriend because I believe my dad isn't a good dad. It's only been a little bit over a week since I've (18M) moved out, and my dad texts me every day asking me to come back. I left because I went through some really horrible things this las... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wc4wlb/aitj_for_moving_out_of_my_dads_house_the_same_day/ | null | 45 | 72 | Moving in with someone you have only known for a few months does not sound like a good decision. YTJ to yourself for putting yourself into this position. | I can't get pregnant, I'm a man | You moved out because he doesn't talk to you? That's it? |
AITJ for “causing” my friends to go on a break? | Hi guys! I (20F) went to a party with my college roommate, “Alice,” her boyfriend “Jared,” and some friends. Alice and Jared have been dating for months after previously breaking up and getting back together. Alice’s longtime friend “Mike” was hosting. At the party, Alice and Mike were playing pong while Jared stood i... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wc3yje/aitj_for_causing_my_friends_to_go_on_a_break/ | null | 19 | 19 | You didn’t cause anything. If Mike was touching Alice and making prolonged eye contact with her, she would have told him to keep his hands off her and she would have moved away. SHE caused the problem. | The only problem I see is that you didn't tell him the truth about Alice flirting back. You only need told a partial story by putting it all on Mike. You should have said all or nothing. You said that you were friends with Jared before Alice but you chose her instead of him. | You are NTA, but you got burned by your supposed friends. |
AITJ for refusing to let my friend sell his couch from my house? | A friend of mine asked if he could leave a couch in my garage for a week because he was moving and couldn't take it to the new place yet. I said sure. A few days later I'm home and some random couple rings my doorbell saying they're here to pick up the couch they bought on Facebook Marketplace. Apparently my friend li... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wc2psj/aitj_for_refusing_to_let_my_friend_sell_his_couch/ | null | 43 | 27 | I think he for sure should have notified you first, but at the point that you saw it was a couple and he verified they were there to pick it up, I would have just let them take it and be done with the whole situation and then no longer let your friend use your garage for storage. | Agreed, it was very much presumptuous on your friend to not let you know about all of this. Especially since you were doing a favor for him holding the couch anyways. But lots of people lack self-awareness, don't realize what situations feel like from the others perspective, aren't doing it intentionally, but are jus... | Ask him for forty percent , like any other retailer. |
AITJ for making a bigger deal out of this than I should have? Was it just bad timing ? | \​ There was a misunderstanding with my BF. He was buying something for me along with his own order, but the order got cancelled. He asked if I still wanted mine, I said yes, but my original item had expired, so I sent him another option that was actually half the price. He joked, “Whoa, there she goes shoppin... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wc118z/aitj_for_making_a_bigger_deal_out_of_this_than_i/ | null | 7 | 13 | She admitted to being a bot and was quite aggressive about it. Probably an Indian or Russian dude farming for engagement. | My goodness you've posted this is 3 or 4 forums | He sounds exhausting and, frankly, manipulative. He should communicate properly and I really dislike people who use the silent treatment (or being short like he was). Don't contort yourself like that. This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship; maybe I'm wrong and he's been good otherwise, but healthy people don't... |
AITJ for refusing to drive strangers home after my friend already promised them I would? | I’m usually the guy who drives when my friends and I go out because I don’t drink at all. I really don’t mind driving and it’s been our thing for a while. One of my friends has recently started volunteering me to drive other people home too. Not our friends, literally people he meets while we’re out. He’ll hear someon... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wc0z96/aitj_for_refusing_to_drive_strangers_home_after/ | null | 339 | 116 | Fool was a knight in someone else's shining armor | No, I don't want no scrub. | I don't think he needs to stoop to their level I think he just needs to cut them off and find new friends |
AITBF for screaming at my pcp office on the phone?? | I didn’t really acream at them but i’m 20 and haven’t had a doctor since i was 16 i spent 4 hours on the phone to get this doctor because she was a mile away but i called and apparently she’s 40 minutes by bike away which is fine but i don’t have a car that city is too far away but they knew this and never told me unti... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wbxruq/aitbf_for_screaming_at_my_pcp_office_on_the_phone/ | null | 0 | 10 | Why is a mile away requiring 40 minutes by bike? | ah gotcha. good luck friend - i’m sorry your stuck in the limbo that is healthcare. | but you started by saying that they were a mile away |
AITJ for wanting to end a friendship over an engagement? | My best friend just posted that she got engaged and I’m seriously considering cutting her off. She started seeing this guy about 3 months ago, probably about 2-3 weeks after she ended a 8 year relationship. I immediately didn’t like him, he showed a lot of red flags but not necessarily enough or red enough for me to t... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wbw6ca/aitj_for_wanting_to_end_a_friendship_over_an/ | null | 57 | 25 | NTJ but call the sister and warn her. Tell her what you said here. I’d also include that you will be ending the friendship over this. | Tell her sister , the kids mother AND tell the kids FATHER !! | Unable to tell the kids father but I think I will reach out to the mother and express my concerns, as much as I hate the idea of the conflict that would follow I want those babies safe |
AITJ for not congratulating my aunt on her newborn baby because I genuinely don’t like her ? | My mom’s youngest sister came over to my mom’s house with her newborn baby, and I didn’t congratulate her. I didn’t say “congratulations,” I didn’t gush over the baby, and I didn’t make a big deal about the birth. And honestly, I don’t feel bad about it. This woman honestly feels like a stranger to me. The weird part ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wbuskl/aitj_for_not_congratulating_my_aunt_on_her/ | null | 109 | 38 | Is she buttering you up to be her babysitter? | LOL she did that to my cousin | Her cheap ass pays my cousin $10 every week |
Am I the jerk for refusing to split an Airbnb pet fine for a dog I told him not to bring? | So last weekend, six of us rented a cabin in the mountains for a three-day ski trip. I organized the trip and booked the rental on my personal credit card. The listing had a massive bold warning on the front page: "Strictly No Pets Allowed. Unauthorized animals will result in an immediate $500 sanitation fine." everyo... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wbuncm/am_i_the_jerk_for_refusing_to_split_an_airbnb_pet/ | null | 455 | 171 | NTJ. Get better friends. The current ones lack critical thinking skills. Also, there is a place reserved in Hell for people who crate dogs. What the fuck is wrong with them that they think leaving a dog in jail all day is acceptable? | Right! I can’t believe the unadulterated, pure audacity of these men (?)! The guy who knowingly broke the rule, after being told no, you can’t have the dog, IS THE ONLY ONE WHO PAYS! Sure, those other jerks can pitch in if they want to but poster is in no way on the hook for this. And if they refuse to pay, the friends... | I'd not let this friend ever join you for a trip again. You can't trust him. |
AITJ (19F) or judgmental for thinking my autistic friend (21F) is being isolated by her mother? | “Isolated” might be the wrong word. I’m autistic and have an autistic friend who really struggles. I feel bad, but I’ve been distancing myself from her because of her mother. Her mother has 7 children and openly says my friend is her favourite. She constantly talks down about her other children and calls them “terribl... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wbt97j/aitj_19f_or_judgmental_for_thinking_my_autistic/ | null | 5 | 6 | This is insane. It’s giving Carrie. | I’m a ginger -wonder if they would consider me the “wh\*re of Babylon”? | The whole situation is super messed up. Hating blonde people is hilarious. But yeah, is she really your friend if she’s being mean to you and copying you and such? Maybe just distance from that whole mess would be for the best. |
A deleted post I made | Am I the jerk for making a post about spreading awareness? So the post I made was on the /KidsAreFuckingStupid subreddit and it was about me spreading awareness for the child h\*te on the subreddit and guess what, the post got removed. I made the post because I noticed there was a lot of people not right in the head sa... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wbrmst/a_deleted_post_i_made/ | null | 0 | 17 | Wrong place so YATJ. | YATJ….. it’s called KidsAreFuckingStupid for a reason…… it’s where people who are sick of stupid as fuck kids vent! | Acknowledging kids are stupid doesn't mean hating kids. I love my kids. Kids are also insanely stupid. |
AITJ for refusing to pay my friend the difference? | I work at a bike shop, going on 4 years now. We get most brands at trade price, which works out somewhere between 45 and 60 percent off depending on who makes it. Back in July my friend Dan offered me his bike for a week while mine was in for a bottom bracket. He offered it, I hadn't asked him for it. That Saturday I... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wbldce/aitj_for_refusing_to_pay_my_friend_the_difference/ | null | 568 | 311 | dude is totally weird, OP should stop calling him a friend now | A better bike, not a pre-broken bike. | It’s worse than that he set him up. |
AITAH for unfriending and asking a friend to leave my house because they believe conspiracy theories, e.g., Arby's serving human meat, flat earth, Epstein eating babies, etc.? | I have a very hard time this. Thanks | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wbi5h9/aitah_for_unfriending_and_asking_a_friend_to/ | null | 16 | 45 | The Epstein one is kind of believable lol. It's weird to be living in a time when all the conspiracies i talked about in undergrad actually turned out to be true. We also live in kind of unprecedented times with respect to people being manipulated to believe this stuff. | Nah, if you don’t wanna hear it you shouldn’t have to, the Epstein one is probably true though | Rumors about the Epstein one--I'd believe that one. The rest? Eye-roll. Yeah, I don't like listening to the flat earth and anti-vax baloney either! |
AITJ for telling my sister no after telling her i would download some mods for her | I dont believe that im wrong in this situation and my fiance and mother are on my side as this is a repeated behaviour of my sisters but im just looking for some unbiased opinions. This revolves around me (20f), my sister (16f) and her bf (18m). for my job, i travel a lot and spend a decent amount of my time out of co... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wbgmd8/aitj_for_telling_my_sister_no_after_telling_her_i/ | null | 70 | 38 | NTA. Doesn't even need a explaination for why you aren't a asshole for not wanting to install unknown stuff to your pc | No. Stop doing everything for her. She doesn't need to be in your room and on your PC all the time. It sounds like it is just leading her to ask for more. | I have definitely considered cutting her off from using my room completely, she once had a friend in my room and her friend spilled a drink on my keyboard so i stopped letting her use my room for a couple months but eventually let her again. The only thing thats stopping me is i know that at her age i loved using my br... |
AITJ for not immediately going back to clean up my dog’s mess after my cousin threatened me and called me out on Facebook? | My cousin, Pooh (30F), was dog sitting for my husband, Lance (28M), and me (26F). My dog will be 11 months old on the 13th. Before she started watching him, I had no idea he would cause any of the issues that happened. He had never shown any signs of being mean or aggressive toward anyone before this. At the time, we ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wb94ko/aitj_for_not_immediately_going_back_to_clean_up/ | null | 1 | 9 | I’d still go help and do what you can. If she does contact the police you have no negatives and you at least tried to help at that point. If she refuses or turns it into something else then you know it’s just for the drama and you can call her out. All I know is if someone tried to get my PUPPY put down after a singl... | I think you should also be a little upset with your mother? Who just takes a dog? They're watching and drops it off to somebody else? And no matter how you feel, you need to go assess the damage your dog caused. I have no more opinions on anything else, except to say that I would not want this Pooh person in my life. A... | He did normal puppy things, but never to that extent. |
AITJ for complaining to the manager? | I was standing in the self check out line, which was very long. This guy comes and cuts in front of the whole line. Low key honest mistake because there was a gap in the line. I told the cashier, Matilda, who was assigned to watch the area. She did nothing. The people in front of me didn't mind and said "thank you, but... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wb6br6/aitj_for_complaining_to_the_manager/ | null | 10 | 15 | NTJ, you were right to report it but in the grand scheme of things, was it nessacary to spend energy on it, if it was just an honest innocent mistake? | Her intervening would’ve just made the line even more backed up and would’ve publicly shamed a customer. You’re not the only one with rights and feelings. I’ve had people accidentally cut me in line and I didn’t throw a big fit about it because I’m an adult and I understand that stuff happens. Her job is to assist peo... | NTJ! When people get away with doing these things, it becomes repetitive! I love people in general and absolutely occasionally let someone cut in front of me - but to cut in front of multiple people isn’t okay! |
AITJ for telling my brothers wife that the arcade machine he supposedly sold has been sitting in my garage for 3 months? | My brother has this full size old Mortal Kombat arcade cabinet that his wife absolutely hates. It takes up a stupid amount of room and apparently they agreed he would sell it because they're trying to clear out their spare room. About 3 months ago he called me and asked if he could keep it in my garage "for a week or ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wb4vy8/aitj_for_telling_my_brothers_wife_that_the_arcade/ | null | 854 | 143 | Right? It's awful for someone to lie to their spouse. I knew a guy who would smoke cigarettes then run speedstick deodorant over his tongue and lie and tell his wife he did not smoke. they were marrie d like 40+ years and he was doing this. | True, after he claimed OP bought it, OP could have just sold it, since they now owned it, lol. | Omg I gagged reading that. |
AITJ for secretly having €50+ that my wife doesn’t know about? | I think I may have accidentally become financially independent. Today I was sitting in my car waiting for my wife and, for some reason, I opened my wallet. There was more than €50 in cash inside. I just stared at it. €50. Physical money. Untaxed by my banking app. Untraceable. Unaccounted for. I suddenly un... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wb4d0g/aitj_for_secretly_having_50_that_my_wife_doesnt/ | null | 30 | 43 | I think this whole post is adorable. | You think this completely fake story written by ChatGPT is cute? | NTJ because it's fairly standard girl math; cash is free money. Everyone knows that!!! Also, I don't agree with the issue of spending 5k on knives, watches, and perfumes. In the arms race, a bigger armoury deters civil unrest. You basically prevented an actual local gangland war with your impressive display of small, ... |
AITJ for refusing to keep being my sister’s free airport parking? | I live about 10 minutes from the airport while my sister lives almost an hour away. A while back she asked if she could leave her car at my place for a weekend instead of paying airport parking. The arrangement was pretty simple. She'd drive to my place, I'd get in her car and drive her the few minutes to the terminal... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wb40qb/aitj_for_refusing_to_keep_being_my_sisters_free/ | null | 595 | 159 | Yes Free parking doesn't include a 4 AM chauffeur. | I was coming to say this. We live 12 minutes from Newark Airport. We will drive and pick up family, and they leave their cars at our house. My husband gets up around 4, but at that time they don't even ask; they let us now they will be dropping their cars, and they take an Uber. | I used to travel a lot and my friend lives near LAX. Sometimes her hubby would take me there on his way to work if things worked out but most of the time I left my car in their driveway and took a cab or car service. I would never expect chauffeur service was included in this favor and was just happy to leave my car in... |
Am I the jerk for asking for help over and over on a forum? | So, for the longest time, I was into lost media. There were quite a few pieces I wanted to find, like Gogola or The Sonic 1990 Tokyo Toy Show Demo, but I'm getting side tracked. So, for the longest time, I was on the lost media wiki forums, and I would go on there and ask about things. However, there is this one mod on... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wb37ni/am_i_the_jerk_for_asking_for_help_over_and_over/ | null | 0 | 6 | I also have OCD, if that means anything. I'm not trying to make myself out to be a hero, but I'm just saying. I just get easily irritated. I'm also scared I'll lose Dycaite as a friend since I have no friends. I just said all this so I don't bottle my emotions up since that's all I do. I just don't want to be hated, bu... | Having autism might explain why you felt the need to do what you did, but it doesn’t excuse your actions, IMO. You’re not owed a response. Either people didn’t know the answer to whatever question you asked, or something about your post put them off and they simply decided to keep scrolling. Either of those outcomes... | Thanks for replying, it might be because I have autism or something else idk, but I just get annoyed when people don't respond, it just annoys me. I just wanted to talk to someone about this because I don't want to bottle it up. I just want to be a better person. |
AITA for asking people over and over to help me? | So, for the longest time, I was into lost media. There were quite a few pieces I wanted to find, like Gogola or The Sonic 1990 Tokyo Toy Show Demo, but I'm getting side tracked. So, for the longest time, I was on the lost media wiki forums, and I would go on there and ask about things. However, there is this one mod on... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wb36s7/aita_for_asking_people_over_and_over_to_help_me/ | null | 0 | 9 | Ok - so based on your post that is incredibly challenging to understand and your comment that you sent something to the mod that you knew was not the best I would say this is a scenario where YTA and your actions had consequences. | What | Hi! Quick reminder about **Rule #3: please add a TL;DR.** A TL;DR is a one or two sentence summary at the end of your post so readers can quickly understand the situation. For example: > tl;dr - I told my mum that her sitting in on her son's interview cost him the job Adding one helps people decide if they want to r... |
Am I the jerk for secretly having €50+ that my wife doesn’t know about? | I think I may have accidentally become financially independent. Today I was sitting in my car waiting for my wife and, for some reason, I opened my wallet. There was more than **€50 in cash** inside. I just stared at it. €50. Physical money. Untaxed by my banking app. Untraceable. Unaccounted for. I s... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wb1yxm/am_i_the_jerk_for_secretly_having_50_that_my_wife/ | null | 4 | 18 | This is kind of cute actually lol, sometimes having physical money makes it seem more valuable because you can see and hold it so it feels way more real than some numbers on a screen, do whatever you like with it! NAJ | Nope. My mom used to take a $20 "bounty" for doing the household grocery shopping (cash back) and save it up for "off the books" ice cream, martinis, or manicures. Heck, since you seem to be feeling a little bit "over monitored", have you considered just asking for a straight cash allowance / petty cash? | I was also thinking adorable and then remembered I keep getting pleasantly surprised that I have cash in my wallet. I never carry cash and when I do, I usually hand it over to my husband who handles most of the errands for us. |
AMITJ for reneging on a commitment? | My partner and I have been together 5 years. She has a 6yo and I’ve been raising them from the beginning as my own child- I only mean to point out he’s not my biological son My partner and I do not get along, haven’t for a long time and are always fighting, breaking up, etc. it’s exhausting, unhealthy and it needs to ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wb1mph/amitj_for_reneging_on_a_commitment/ | null | 4 | 38 | NTJ. Unless she just wants to go along to get along to make her life more workable, then even she needs to see that this isn't working, it won't work in the future, and that the sooner you separate, the better. I mean, what does she want you to do at this point? | I’m gonna get along with myself first before I try to get along with anyone else lol | So single mothers should remain single, then? |
AITJ for giving it back to my teacher when she has at me for being 3 minutes late. | So, this is a story from last year at school, I do not know if I am the jerk here or not so do tell me your thoughts. I was an autistic student and I had a stomach condition so combined I had an unfiltered opinion for entitled or overly authoritative teachers and an intolerance for being denied usage of the bathroom if... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wazbaz/aitj_for_giving_it_back_to_my_teacher_when_she/ | null | 14 | 12 | YTJ to yourself for still thinking about this a year later | let miss petty live rent free in ur head for a whole year. u cooked her with that bathroom speech so just take the W and move on lmaoo | YTJ…Regardless what image the teacher has…if it is problematic then you should have you & your parents meet with the school administrator(s)/Special Education Facilitator and discuss documented issues regarding said teacher. Special Education teachers and staff need to not only follow school district policies but also ... |
AITJ for feeling annoyed at this situation? | I'm on the board of a club in uni. This semester, I am virtual and in a different time zone (3 hrs behind) from everyone else, who is in person on campus. However, since my position is almost all virtual, we all agreed that I would keep it and keep doing my work. I've been on top of it and have gotten things done early... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wawjzn/aitj_for_feeling_annoyed_at_this_situation/ | null | 0 | 3 | Hi! Quick reminder about **Rule #3: please add a TL;DR.** A TL;DR is a one or two sentence summary at the end of your post so readers can quickly understand the situation. For example: > tl;dr - I told my mum that her sitting in on her son's interview cost him the job Adding one helps people decide if they want to r... | You’re in a different time zone and you literally messaged her as soon as you realized there was an access issue. She fixed it at 5:54am, then gave you less than 4 hours to do it before deciding to just send it herself. If it was actually urgent, she should’ve said so when assigning it instead of expecting you to magic... | Thanks for submitting your story to r/amithejerk! Stories posted here can get featured on the **Am I the Jerk?** show. Check to see if your story made it on: **[YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/@amithejerk)** | **[Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/show/0uEkxvRMpxLuuHeyPVVioF)**. New episodes drop **[daily](https://you... |
FaceTime video call in gym locker room | I was changing and a guy bounds into the locker room of a commercial gym - he was in the middle of a video call. I can see the dude he is talking to and hear both sides of the conversation. I just nicely said ‘hey, can you take that outside?’ And he did. No problem. I told some from about it and they acted like I wa... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wasb4n/facetime_video_call_in_gym_locker_room/ | null | 3 | 6 | I would assume that’s against gym policy, no? It would fall under recording in a private area of the gym. Definitely NTJ. | Not the jerk | Post removed due to not following the AITJ posting guidelines. Please review and follow the guidelines. Edit in accordance with the guidelines and then resubmit your post. Thank you, AITJ 🤠 Am I the Jerk? |
My wife is dying and I just found out she cheated on me 3 years ago. What the hell am I supposed to do? | My wife and I have 2 kids and she’s currently dealing with terminal illness. Things have gotten pretty bad and we’re basically at the point where we’re trying to spend whatever time she has left together as a family. A few days ago I found out she cheated on me years ago. I asked her about it she admitted it imm... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1waplnk/my_wife_is_dying_and_i_just_found_out_she_cheated/ | null | 7 | 12 | This is awful, but all things considered I don’t think you’ll regret doing a kindness to a dying person even if you don’t feel it inside. You might regret not having done so. There will be time afterwards to work through your feelings. | NTJ but you need a therapist, not Reddit. Try and find a good counselor to help you process it all. Stay strong for those kids OP. | bro honestly just lie to her. tell her u forgive her so there's no drama in her final days for the kids' sake. u can deal with ur anger in therapy after she passes. it’s fked up she dropped this on u, but right now u gotta protect the kids' peace |
AITJ for wanting to break up with my boyfriend because I don’t see a financially stable future with him? | My boyfriend (M25) and I (F24) have been together for three years and were friends for four years before that. The issue of supporting his family has come up throughout our relationship, but I always thought the amount of financial support he provided would be temporary. Three years later, he still pays a substantial ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wanqnm/aitj_for_wanting_to_break_up_with_my_boyfriend/ | null | 152 | 86 | You’re young, you can move on for any reason, but THIS is a good reason. If your stay, you’ll end up being part of the support team for his family. 🚩🚩 | Imagine the nightmare after marriage and kids | This will NEVER change and they will most likely expect to move into your house if you get married. |
AITJ for pulling out when I saw my name down as their wedding photographer? | I take photos. Ive got decent gear and I do the odd paid job (a couple of christenings, one 40th), but its a hobby that pays for itself rather than a business. My friend got engaged in February and I offered to shoot her engagement party as a gift. I meant that. It was a nice thing to be able to give somebody and I wa... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wamr8k/aitj_for_pulling_out_when_i_saw_my_name_down_as/ | null | 5,156 | 486 | Standard iirc is half upfront. You’re assuming an entire day’s very stressful work isn’t worth anything. | Still doesn't negate the fact that she knows OP doesn't have other plans because she's probably already RSVP'd. That's the point they are making. No one is arguing that working vs attending wouldn't be a different experience. | I read on another story that a photographer was doing a wedding for her friends for free. She was also a guest at the wedding. She was shooting the wedding all day and was getting tired. When she wanted to take a break to sit down and eat, the groom was being a jerk and wouldn't let her. He wanted her to keep shooting.... |
AITJ, random guy in a groupchat gave me money, but after months of harassment, I never gave it back. | I know I already made a separate post about my gym bro and how he disabled my social media platforms but I also need peoples discretion on another situation that happened to me this year. TLDR: random guy in groupchat gave me 150 dollars, when I repeatedly told him I did not need or want it, then turned around and ha... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wamlt8/aitj_random_guy_in_a_groupchat_gave_me_money_but/ | null | 1 | 3 | Thanks for submitting your story to r/amithejerk! Stories posted here can get featured on the **Am I the Jerk?** show. Check to see if your story made it on: **[YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/@amithejerk)** | **[Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/show/0uEkxvRMpxLuuHeyPVVioF)**. New episodes drop **[daily](https://you... | Even after he had over a hundred people harass my family? 😭 when I didn’t even ask for the money nor want it? | You’re definitely the jerk. Give the money back. |
AITJ for getting an ego boost from helping someone cheat on their partner? | I've been close friends with a woman for a little over a year now. We never had actual sex until recently. For all of these months it's only been sexting and phone sex every so often. It all started early on when I met her, her boyfriend of 8 years broke up with her. At this point I had zero feelings for her. I just ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wahvuy/aitj_for_getting_an_ego_boost_from_helping/ | null | 0 | 20 | YTJ, i mean, you and her are both the jerks, theres nothing more to say to that. | Not the jerk your skum of the earth😂 | You like it because you feel superior and more wanted than a man who has no glaring flaws that would justify being cheated on. Also because you have no morals and are probably a selfish, ego driven person |
AITA for blocking my friend from my tiktok stream | this is most likely temporary, but idk bc how he’s acting abt it. i’m a gamer on tiktok. i have an awesome community, everyone is so wholesome. however recently one of my friends/ viewers has been acting like a bit of a dick. he’s the best player in my chat by a country mile he’s practically pro, but that means the y... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1waf1e0/aita_for_blocking_my_friend_from_my_tiktok_stream/ | null | 14 | 15 | Bud, it’s TikTok. You could block the entire app, and you wouldn’t be a jerk. I definitely think you did the right thing | Eh cut him and cut his supporters you were right and I say that as someone who has been eligible for tournament play for real money. On certain games. | yeah good to know its the right thing, but he’s been my friend for like 8 months now and a lot of my mutuals with him ( my regulars) are getting pissed at me, ( they are also telling people keep themselves safe, bc they look up to him) so idk what to do |
AITJ for wanting my boyfriend to sell a very care trading card? | TL;DR: me and my boyfriend got into a little tiff about whether he should sell a trading card or not. (Also I did post about this but accidentally reposted it from a different community and didn’t copy paste) Hi! I 21f and my boyfriend 23m have recently come into possession of a very rare card from a TCG that right ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wacn6u/aitj_for_wanting_my_boyfriend_to_sell_a_very_care/ | null | 0 | 60 | You are not a jerk for thinking about your financial situation but it’s his card and his decision and you will need to respect that. | It is not your card, it's as simple as that. Go and get a job if you want a car, it is not up to him to sell an item he does not want to sell to purchase anything for you. | YTJ, that’s your bf’s card, BOYFRIEND. You’re not married and I don’t think you should be saying anything about it. Friends and family shouldn’t even know, you should be supporting what he wants to do with it |
AITJ? Did not open the door to 2 friends for bringing a third person I have cut off to my door | 3 school friends (all middle aged now) I haven't seen in a few years turned up unexpectedly at my house - I did not open the door and pretended to not be home as the 2 of them that I am OK with KNOW I don't ever want to meet the third one again as he is toxic towards me, but they STILL brought him along - I feel guilty... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1waayzf/aitj_did_not_open_the_door_to_2_friends_for/ | null | 417 | 109 | You are absolutely in the right that you do not need to explain why you cut them off. I’m gonna ask a really stupid question based upon my particular issues: is there any way that it’s possible that they literally FORGOT that you don’t want to see the third person as it’s been a few years? Your telling them I don’t ... | Thank you - and no...or at least not the middle person - the first one who rang the doorbell has severe health issues, and I've only ever told him once, so it's possible he may have misrememberes - but the middle one is as sharp as a Tack - and he's been told on more than one occasion when he's brought Mr Toxic up that... | I hear you. I just figured it was worth asking because I’ve had a few experiences where I forgot, and also where I realized something that was critical to me simply truthfully wasn’t that important to somebody else and their lack of memory annoyed me … until I reminded myself that there was no reason why THEY had to re... |
Am I the jerk for refusing to give my sister the nicer bedroom after she already moved in? | My sister moved into my apartment temporarily after breaking up with her boyfriend. I have a two bedroom place and told her she could stay in the smaller room for a couple months while she figured things out. The bigger bedroom is mine and has an attached bathroom. A few days after moving in she asked if we could swap... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wa5q9s/am_i_the_jerk_for_refusing_to_give_my_sister_the/ | null | 22 | 25 | Of course you are NTJ, of course your sister is TJ and of course your mother is TJ as well for not telling your sister off for complaining about it. | Your sister is claiming ownership of your apartment. If she wants space so much and is willing to pay for it, than she should save towards getting her own place | Your apt. Your choice. I’d say no. But I personally would take the extra cash. |
AITJ for rejecting a guy friend, kissing someone else at a festival, and now feeling like I'm going insane from his reaction? | A few months ago, a friend of mine, "V"(m 22), and I (f 21) had this brief mutual spark. But I quickly realized in my head that a relationship with him would never work. Feelings aren't everything, we aren't compatible, and I refuse to get into something where I'd have to change someone. So I buried it and treated him ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wa4wei/aitj_for_rejecting_a_guy_friend_kissing_someone/ | null | 1 | 38 | Yes, your cuddly, affectionate behavior genuinely blurred the lines and broke this guy's heart, making you an insensitive jerk (at least). Don't send mixed messages. Don't be a tease. If you need to cuddle, get a dog. Your post gave me the ick. | If you know you have no interest in V, why give him mixed messages? He has trouble reading situations and whether intentionally or accidentally you are giving mixed messages. YTA | The other guy doesn't have the hots for you. The one you're leading on does. Read the room. |
AITJ for trapping squirrels which my neighbour feeds even after I repeatedly told them not to | My neighbour moved in about 2 years ago and things have been fine mostly. However, they do have one serious problem. They are big on feeding squirrels and do it twice or thrice every day. Earlier it used to be okay as only a couple of squirrels used to come but now there are literally dozens of them that hang around ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wa4lwv/aitj_for_trapping_squirrels_which_my_neighbour/ | null | 0 | 24 | As someone who had serious squirrel damage to my house, I’d get a dog. An annoying dog that barks all day at squirrels. Bonus points if you save a dog from a rescue and give it a good home. | Probably depends on what state you’re in. Another option is to live trap them and haul them off to the woods and release. | If they’re feeding them in a shared garden area, you can put cayenne pepper in the feed. It won’t harm the birds but the squirrels will stop coming |
Am I the jerk for not talking to this one girl in my friend group TL;DR | so I have been not talking to this one girl in my friend group and here is my story. I am in school friend group around 7 people (including me) and this one girl let’s call her Jessica and this Jessica has just been making rude comments to me. so now let’s add another person of my friends who takes this other gi... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wa4he6/am_i_the_jerk_for_not_talking_to_this_one_girl_in/ | null | 2 | 5 | Id say just leave her alone and find other people. shes clearly not wanting to talk to you. | Hi, OP. The TL;DR request was to ask you to use that indicator at the end of your whole post and leave a one or two sentence summary. There really isn't enough context as to why you would post this as AITJ. Are you not speaking to this person because she is actually unkind? Or were you upset that this person chose a... | NTJ! You dont have to talk to someone who is constantly rude to you. Dont start a fight, but dont let them walk all over you either. It might be worth asking your other friends if something is going on |
AITJ for opening a bottle my brother left at my place for 3 years? | My brother moved overseas a few years ago and left a couple boxes at my apartment because he didn't want to pay for storage. Most of it is boring stuff like books, cables and some kitchen things. One of the boxes had a sealed bottle of olive oil in it. Nothing written on it saying not to touch it and he never mentione... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wa4fao/aitj_for_opening_a_bottle_my_brother_left_at_my/ | null | 70 | 54 | INFO: Where was the olive oil? You mention that it was in a box but then also that it was in your pantry. Who put it in the pantry? | That is the cost of storing items in your place. Also olive oil does expire. I think that went bad after 3 years. | YTA. Not yours. You gave him permission to store his stuff with you. He did not give you permission to riffle through his stuff and use it! |
AITA, I cut off a friend for getting my social media accounts permanently disabled over a joke. | I have known this friend since middle school, we are both in our early twenties now and I’ve never really had an issue with this guy I’ve always thought he was really cool. I have been hitting the gym for an entire year now and I was posting on my instagram my physique and all. He seen all my posts and wanted to hit th... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1wa07pq/aita_i_cut_off_a_friend_for_getting_my_social/ | null | 144 | 52 | NTJ to me. I doubt he did it by mistake honestly. Id just move forward without him unless he makes a genuine apology | This is so stupid, just stop talking to the guy. You cannot for a second convince me that you were speaking to someone who made homophobic jokes towards you regularly (Even as a joke) to then end up all suprise when he was a dick. | How was he pretending to report it if you weren't there to see him pretend to report it? That doesn't make any sense. Seems to me like you did it on purpose. That excuse is stupid |
I think I accidentally destroyed my relationship over chicken. (25m 26f) | My girlfriend loves cooking. Like LOVES cooking. When we first started dating, she made me dinner and asked what I thought. It was awful. The chicken was somehow dry and wet at the same time. I genuinely didn’t know that was possible. But I liked her, so I told her it was amazing. That was three years ago. Since t... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w9w6sr/i_think_i_accidentally_destroyed_my_relationship/ | null | 40 | 45 | You should have told her the truth at least after the 2nd time. This would put me off a man as well because I would keep wondering what else he’s been lying about for years | Lying to someone's face to "spare their feelings" is NOT a nice thing to do. It only makes for bigger problems. Trust is lost in buckets & gained in drops, & you did some serious damage with this little white lie. YTJ | And you should have made it light and funny. "I like you so much and wanted to spare your feelings, hun, so I exaggerated. Let's find a recipe together that is truly amazing." Chicken piccata comes to mind... |
Told my buddy he's not borrowing my tools anymore after what he did to my table saw | My friend borrowed my table saw last weekend to build some planter boxes for his deck. I told him specifically do not cut wet, pressure-treated lumber on it because the blade is for fine finish cuts and wet lumber will gum it up and burn the motor out. he brings it back yesterday evening in the bed of his truck. He di... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w9v712/told_my_buddy_hes_not_borrowing_my_tools_anymore/ | null | 122 | 57 | Reply in the chat with photos and recap your instructions in the photo titles. Instruction - don’t cut wet timber. Photo of green sap gumming up saw blade. Instruction - intended for fine finish cuts. Photo of bent guide rail and jammed fence. Implied Instruction - do not leave power towels uncovered outside, especi... | I sure hope this is an "ex-friend" now. What a clown.... | Sounds like my father-in-law. Last time he ruined one of my tools I had to explain that a worker needs to be as smart as the tool he is using in order for it to function properly. . . |
AITJ: Former roommate asked me if I was interested in getting a new place with her; I don't want to? Also I blocked her? | Former roommate asked me if I was interested in getting a new place with her; I don't want to? Also I blocked her? I'm wondering if I was out of line by blocking her Reposting with more info if you recognize this post! I lived with this person for two years. I was essentially forced to move in June 2026 because sh... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w9tl09/aitj_former_roommate_asked_me_if_i_was_interested/ | null | 0 | 4 | This same story has been posted numerous times over the last month or so..... | So, so many times. | Hi! Quick reminder about **Rule #3: please add a TL;DR.** A TL;DR is a one or two sentence summary at the end of your post so readers can quickly understand the situation. For example: > tl;dr - I told my mum that her sitting in on her son's interview cost him the job Adding one helps people decide if they want to r... |
AITJ? i accidentally killed my roommate's hamster | I have lived with my roommate for 2 years and he got a pet hamster shortly after moving in. His name was Timmy. Well i did not like Timmy. My roommate let him roam free sometimes and he always used to run around and try to bite me or get into food boxes. Yesterday my rommate had to go to an emergency and asked me t... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w9ji2s/aitj_i_accidentally_killed_my_roommates_hamster/ | null | 0 | 19 | Ummm, in my reading you murdered that Timmy. No rush to a vet? You had to put it out of its misery? Yikes? | You should tell him that there was an accident and he passed away. Don't give him hope that he could find his way home. | Well, I still say YTJ and you need to tell your roommate what happened. |
AITJ for not wanting to share a bed with my gf on a trip? | We’re a lesbian couple. This weekend my gf (27F) and I (28F) went on a trip with friends, we rented a house. We arrived yesterday evening after a long day of traveling. After hanging for a bit everyone started getting ready for bed. I took a quick shower because I really needed one. Everyone else showered as well. I as... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w9e6nm/aitj_for_not_wanting_to_share_a_bed_with_my_gf_on/ | null | 44 | 24 | I feel like that bed she slept in cannot be slept in by you now unless all the bedding gets washed/changed 😂 That is total swamp behaviour 🤢 | Eww body hygiene has nothing to do with orientation, 🤢 | Did you tell gf she smelled bad and needed to shower? I’d just come right out and say it so it would solve sleeping problems and save gf from embarrassment around friends. |
AITJ for being judgemental about how my best friend met her boyfriend | My best friend has been dating her boyfriend for six months and has always told everyone they randomly met at a bar. Last weekend we were out with his friends when one of them drunkenly joked that he “still can’t believe the Hinge situation actually worked out.” My friend immediately changed the subject. Later I asked ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w9coto/aitj_for_being_judgemental_about_how_my_best/ | null | 2 | 5 | Another person’s relationship is none of your business. | 1. It's not your business 2. It's not your business to tell 3. You don't know what was going on or their or situation between ole boy and his ex at the time. 4.The previous relationship is over and your friend and the guy are together now...what's the point in bringing up past issues? What's anyone to gain from it? | I'd stay out of it. Its not the friends fault he was searching on a dating site while still with his ex. Clearly that relationship was already doomed. |
AITJ for beating up my younger cousin on his birthday | Today was my cousin Aryan's 20th birthday. There was a party at his house, and honestly, most of the evening was fun. I was hanging out with my cousins Rohit (27), Aryan (20), and Mayur (21). I'm 29.There was a lot of roasting and joking around. They were making jokes about my posture, some funny non consensual picture... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w96dfd/aitj_for_beating_up_my_younger_cousin_on_his/ | null | 0 | 24 | YTJ for foisiting this AI generated slop on us | I stopped reading after you switched from going on a walk to being on a bike. Stop lying. | You're not the jerk. More than likely, they don't joke with Rohit the same way because he doesn't allow it. It's OK to let someone know that I don't joke like that, so please don't do it to me. It's not that you can't take a joke, but that you have boundaries. If they can't understand that, then they need to grow up so... |
AITJ for throwing out my sister and her affair partner? | Hey there, i feel a bit awful and i need to vent. The context: My sister (38F) is currently divorcing (her ex husband is no better) and she's basically living her best free life at the moment, with no money and no plan, but i digress... Her new man, a guy i also know, is in a similar situation and they have "no place ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w91xhw/aitj_for_throwing_out_my_sister_and_her_affair/ | null | 736 | 127 | Definitely get those locks changed. | “They only have time to look for places to spend time together” is so real for so many people | Seriously! If "family helps family" then why is she not cleaning her brother's house, and meal prepping for the next week, so he can just come home, from the hospital, and actually rest. It's going to take OP a minute to stay to feel normal again. He was seriously sick. He needs calm and quiet...a stressfree environmen... |
Aitj if I dont wake my parents up for chruch? | It's 8:19 church starts at 9:00 am whould I be the jerk to not wake them up even tho I have been up since 5 in the morning and I just don't want to go today, and used the excuse I wanted you guess to rest if they get mad? | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w8yzdc/aitj_if_i_dont_wake_my_parents_up_for_chruch/ | null | 57 | 117 | My first thought as well. And I would just say that I had assumed they wanted to sleep in. Or go back to bed yourself, as some others have already said. That's what I would do lol | Mom and Dad are currently huddled in bed saying "I hope OP doesn't come wake us up cause we don't want to go." | Well then, I maintain that it's not your responsibility to wake them up. |
AITJ for not wanting to spend time with my boyfriends mom who has never liked me? | My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now, and his mom has never liked me, despite having hardly met me. My boyfriend, his mom, and I all worked in the same industry, very close knit industry where rumors run rampant and everyone tries to know everyone's business and talk behind eachothers backs. It's like ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w8lthm/aitj_for_not_wanting_to_spend_time_with_my/ | null | 49 | 29 | You're NTJ, I'd feel the same way. But you should re-evaluate being a in a relationship with this guy. His mother isn't going away anytime soon and she kind of part of the package. | She moved across the country right before we started dating, so aside from the couple phone calls my boyfriend has with her a month, she really isn't that present in our lives thankfully. This is the first time she's even come back to our city in over 2 years. My own parents are much more present in our relationship,... | Why waste a day with her? You’ll only have to sit there and have her being unpleasant about you, in your own home. Your boyfriend needs to grow a pair and straighten her out or cut contact. Good for you on staying away from her. I had all this with my ex-wife’s family, especially mother. Eventually, I pushed back and ... |
AITJ for thinking my exe's reason for breaking up with me was stupid!!! | My ex ended are year and a half relationship because of rainbow dash from mlp. This is her msg copy and pasted "hey ash sorry for this out of the blue but i want to break up" i asked why she says "i love rainbow dash more then you" and when i ask if she 110% serious she said she 120% serious. She then left the call a... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w8l6zh/aitj_for_thinking_my_exes_reason_for_breaking_up/ | null | 0 | 41 | Then she's obviously using a lame ass excuse instead of the actual reason. You're better off not thinking about it. | this can't be real | I see well I've met some who are assholes but most woman have been kind to me so yh |
AITJ for Refusing to Pay to Solve Our Neighbor's Problem? | Our downstairs neighbor (call her "N") just bought the condo below us. N says that it’s loud when we walk around and hopes we can reduce the noise. We were surprised, given the last neighbor of 8 years never mentioned anything. We do walk around more now because we have a newborn baby. N suggested we wear slippers. We... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w8gqzj/aitj_for_refusing_to_pay_to_solve_our_neighbors/ | null | 531 | 245 | I sleep with ear plugs and also don’t hear my alarms so I wear an Apple Watch that vibrates. Also a much more peaceful way to wake up than a loud alarm. Only downside is I probably won’t hear if someone breaks into to apartment. | If she owns her condo, she can spend the money to put sound proofing in her ceiling. Sucks that the builder didn’t do that , but not your responsibility at all | AND light up! Sunrise alarms are a thing. |
Aitj for not going to my brother 8th birthday party? | I’m 17F, and it’s my little brother’s birthday today. My family went to the zoo, and they’re still there, but I didn’t go because my moms wouldn’t let me wear these shorts because they said they were too short which wasn't and they been out for me cause they saying i am being a jerk bit Last week, my older brother an... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w8c3vk/aitj_for_not_going_to_my_brother_8th_birthday/ | null | 1 | 59 | YTJ. Even if you're right about the shorts, your brother didn't do anything. Hopefully, you're at least using this time to learn about punctuation and grammar. | Why didn’t you just wear something else ? You spoiled your brother’s birthday for no good reason. YTJ. | "I feel like I ruined his birthday" Why do you feel that way? Just because you ruined his birthday? You've got a lot of growing up to do. Being a 17 year old brat is not a good look. |
AITJ: I got banned from a Discord server for being, and I qoute, 'too annoying.' Here's what happened. | So, I was a part of a Discord roleplay server (I won't disclose the name of it) for being 'too annoying.' I was also falsely accused of using AI to generate roleplay responses. First off, I'm strongly anti-AI and would never use it to write for me; secondly, a simple mute would have sufficed instead of a full-on ban, ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w8b4io/aitj_i_got_banned_from_a_discord_server_for_being/ | null | 0 | 20 | Yta don't be annoying | Yes you were annoying. | Not enough info here |
AITJ for refusing to live with my mum while her abusive partner is there? | I’m 22F and my mum is 50F. She has been with her partner, 50M, for just over a year. My partner is 25M and we’ve been together for around four years. My mum’s partner has become increasingly verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive towards her. She constantly makes excuses for him, despite his behaviour escalating. ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w84ny1/aitj_for_refusing_to_live_with_my_mum_while_her/ | null | 84 | 21 | NTJ. You need to talk to a domestic violence shelter to learn how to support your mother while keeping yourself safe. They can also help her when she's ready for it in getting him out of the house. | NTJ. The mother sees all kinds of faults in her daughter's boyfriend (at least after he refused to give her money), but sees none in the guy abusing and taking advantage of her. | Ntj. That's essentially enabling her. It's not going to help things anyway. I promise you that . She's got to leave him . It's hard i know. I've been there. I'm almost 5 years out, I lost everything but my dogs. ( thank God) I , personally, would never have asked my children to move in to my mess. I want my kids t... |
Six years after my wife’s affair, I found her diary describing how big the other guy’s dick was. I think I’m done and want a divorce. | My wife and I have been married for 15 years and have two kids under 10. Six years ago, my wife had an affair that lasted a few months. Finding out obviously traumatized me. She was extremely remorseful afterward though, and I ultimately decided I was willing to try reconciliation. It wasn’t easy, but we put in the w... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w7pf7u/six_years_after_my_wifes_affair_i_found_her_diary/ | null | 17 | 53 | Nothing is new- except that you read about a past affair of which you already had knowledge. Doesn’t sound like she talked about him except in a sexual sense. I’d be more concerned if she called him her soulmate or expressed more of an emotional connection. Sure it hurts. But did you sleep with anyone before you... | Why did you read her journal? That's a violation even without the affair. What did you think you were going to get from that experience? I just find myself thinking that you went looking for trouble and now you're disappointed that you found it. You basically hurt your own feelings by purposefully seeking out something... | I would’ve walked immediately after I found out. Just leave her if you can’t deal with it. She did this to you. You are sick of pretending she didn’t destroy anything but she did. You gave it your best you tried for six years… If you decide to throw in the towel, you are blameless. |
AITJ for having my friend's car towed from my parking spot after I told him he had to move it? | I have 2 assigned parking spots at my apartment but only one car. A friend of mine sometimes uses the second spot when he comes over, and I've never had an issue with it. A few days ago my building told everyone the garage had to be completely empty one morning so they could repaint the lines and do some ceiling work.... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w7mv4x/aitj_for_having_my_friends_car_towed_from_my/ | null | 811 | 148 | Right! Who would think "you drive to my house where I currently am. I will answer the door and give you the spare key for the car, then stay at home while you drive back to your place and move my car for me." Like, what?!?!? How about friend could have just brought the keys himself and then move his car too? Or he asks... | I’m guessing you have never heard of sarcasm old man. | r/woosh |
AITJ for refusing to give my mom money so she’ll kick me out? | # I’m 19F. Mom makes me give up a lot of my money to live with her. College FAFSA refunds, paychecks, everything. I basically have little money to myself because of it. My brother is 22 and she doesn’t expect him to get a job or go to college and I’m doing both under dialysis and heart problems. So, finally I refu... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w7kptw/aitj_for_refusing_to_give_my_mom_money_so_shell/ | null | 44 | 26 | Does your university have housing that you can get into? That might be an option for you Do you have friends from university that you could possibly look at being a roommate with? Doesn’t necessarily have to be someone that you already know Can you put a ad out at some of the laundromats or grocery stores on bu... | I would still talk to your counselor and see if they have resources. Even community colleges sometimes have Housing resources or are able to match you up with places that might be more lenient about credit scores, Or find roommates etc | Oh sweetie. My heart breaks for you. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. You are NOT a jerk in any way, shape, nor form! I don’t have any advice, unfortunately, but I am sending you a HUGE HUG and many blessings and prayers your way. You deserve so much better. God bless you. 🫂 |
AITJ: I blocked my former roommate who asked if I wanted to move in with her again, three months after essentially forcing me out of my last place. | I lived with this person for two years. I was essentially forced to move in June 2026 because she moved due to a conflict with the third roommate. The person I'm speaking of was the primary leaseholder, and when a leaseholder leaves in that building, everyone has to also, in a given unit. My current lease is month t... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w7kmlj/aitj_i_blocked_my_former_roommate_who_asked_if_i/ | null | 0 | 4 | How many times is this gonna be reposted | So you think blocking her was also justified? | I genuinely cannot understand why any of this is a question to you. Why would you even think of living with her again? It’s completely nonsensical, and would make you a jerk to yourself. NTJ for now. |
AITJ for keeping the money my friend accidentally sent me after she refused to pay me back? | TL;DR. A few months ago I lent my friend $300 because she was short on rent. She promised she’d pay me back the following week, but every time I asked after that there was always some excuse. Eventually I stopped bringing it up because I was tired of arguing about it. Yesterday she accidentally sent me $250. She imme... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w7k05n/aitj_for_keeping_the_money_my_friend_accidentally/ | null | 456 | 151 | I think the correct description is Asshole Tax. You pay it to rid yourself of an asshole. | NTJ - sad that she was sending someone else money but would not send you yours. Keep the money and ditch the so-called friends. | Lose friend and £300 Or Lose friend and £50 Its not rocket science , NTA |
Am I the jerk for wanting the parking spot I have had for 5 years? | In our apartment complex, there are 10 parking spots unassigned. My spouse and I have it written in our contract that we have 2 spots. There’s an older gentlemen (Neighbour 1), who has 1 spot. Two separate elderly ladies each with 1 spot (Neighbour 2 and Neighbour 3). An elderly couple who is only there on weekends ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w7anp6/am_i_the_jerk_for_wanting_the_parking_spot_i_have/ | null | 2 | 9 | The key word in all of this is ‘unassigned.’ As long as you have 2 spots, it doesn’t matter which ones they are. You aren’t a jerk for wanting to park where you have for 5 years, but unassigned means unassigned. It sounds like a very small parking lot and the few extra steps aren’t worth giving the new tenant so muc... | You forgot the /s, as OP is taking your comment seriously. | I’m gonna say YTJ for the sole reason that you explicitly mentioned the spots are unassigned. If they’re unassigned then they’re unassigned. It’s first come first serve. No spot is “yours”. The fact that neighbour 5 moved their car into the unassigned parking spot you often use is… irrelevant? It’s not your spot, r... |
Am I the jerk for changing my Wi‑Fi password after my neighbor shared it? | I gave my neighbor my Wi‑Fi password temporarily because their internet was down. A few weeks later, my connection became painfully slow. I found out they had shared my password with relatives who visit often and even someone in another apartment. I changed the password without warning. My neighbor confronted me and s... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w79hsb/am_i_the_jerk_for_changing_my_wifi_password_after/ | null | 441 | 158 | It’s not so common | Something can’t be taught. | It disappeared, same as common courtesy |
Am I the jerk for refusing to lend my car to a coworker who damaged it last time? | A coworker asked to borrow my car for the weekend because theirs is in the shop. I said no because the last time I lent it to them, they returned it nearly empty, with a new scratch on the bumper, and acted like it wasn’t a big deal. They promised they would “be more careful this time,” but I told them I’m not comfort... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w79fgn/am_i_the_jerk_for_refusing_to_lend_my_car_to_a/ | null | 22 | 39 | You’d be an idiot if you let them use your car again | NTJ. They have just told you they were knowingly careless with your property last time. You'd be daft to lend it to them again. | Common sense is at play here. Is this a bot, I see this same post all the time? |
Entitled stepdad tells me to stop blaming my sister, so I make a list of everything she's done | TL;DR My stepdad got on my nerves one last time telling me to "stop blaming your sister for everything" so I went ahead and compiled proof of every offense shes done. To start, I'm 15 F and my sister is 6 F. Do not think that her being little can excuse her actions. When my sister was little, she was a nice child t... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w78ptk/entitled_stepdad_tells_me_to_stop_blaming_my/ | null | 275 | 52 | You need to talk to your mom about this. This is textbook emotional abuse. | Yep. OP needs to get out of there and the little one needs therapy asap. Death and suicide threads at 6 years old? And nobody adresses it? Unbelievable! | Seriously, where is the mother in all of this?! This man has been abusing OP for YEARS and it seems like the mother just allows it and does nothing to protect OP?! He’s even teaching the young child to be an abuser too! |
AITJ for not asking why my brother won't attend my wedding | Tldr: brother won't attend wedding and I won't ask why I will keep this short and sweet, I have a brother, Robert. I am getting married, Robert is the only family I have left. Robert is also a weird dude, I see him at band practice once a week, but I don't know where he lives or what he does for work, he's just privat... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w739d5/aitj_for_not_asking_why_my_brother_wont_attend_my/ | null | 408 | 92 | Its your brother if you are ok with it then she needs to be as well | NTJ. If it doesn't matter to you, just let it go. Don't borrow trouble. I wonder why this affects your fiancé as much as it does.. | NTJ, seems like you guys just have a very weird relationship. If thats fine by you, leave it like that |
Would I be The A-hole if I said this? | Would I be the A-hole if I told my uncle/father that I don’t really need help going viral on TikTok? Here are some context "I graduated in May 2026 with goals of getting into software engineering and editing.” I’ve been making TikToks since 2019-2026, mainly about things I enjoy, like Wakfu, funny moments, and meme... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w6x69z/would_i_be_the_ahole_if_i_said_this/ | null | 10 | 14 | NTA. But god you sound insufferable. Them going through your phone? They sound insufferable too. | Why did they want you to delete your other accounts? They're yours right? | You clearly care about this and have been doing it for years. just tell them you appreciate the help but wanna experiment with your own strategy |
AITJ for “ living a better life” then my sister | I’m the youngest (F, 19) of four sisters. My mother was my dad’s third wife, so to make things shorter, I’ll call my two eldest sisters Apple and Berry. Apple and Berry’s mother died in a car accident when they were younger. Then my dad married his second wife, and they had Carrot. My dad and his second wife divorced... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w6pw0s/aitj_for_living_a_better_life_then_my_sister/ | null | 166 | 34 | NTJ. It’s no fault of your own that you were born when you were born. It’s not like you had a choice in the matter. Your parents were able to provide for you more than Apple and while I can see why Apple might be jealous, to hold that jealousy against you is childish. Also I’m not sure the exact circumstances of her li... | She pimped you out to get her at the time husband off!!! She is not a victim. She is a user. | Fuck that. I would tell her that I found out about her pimping me out to her ex husband, so she can keep making stuff up in order to pretend she’s the victim, but you aren’t the one who needs to apologize or beg for forgiveness here. |
My brother is stuck in an echo chamber | I have a brother that is a supporter of the right he thinks trans people are mentally ill, and he called the epstain files are irrelevant were both pretty young and he's a cool guy outside off this I keep yelling at him for this and holding my ground I'm tired at this point what do I do :( | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w6ni1e/my_brother_is_stuck_in_an_echo_chamber/ | null | 1 | 36 | "And hes a cool guy outside of this" No hes not... defending pedophiles immediately revoked your cool card. | Educate him. | I'm gonna be real he's 14 I don't think he knows what he's saying |
AITJ if I just let my mom be confused about our relationship and don't clarify? | Tldr; I am low contact with my mom. She thinks relationships are all or nothing, and will not accept nothing. I could try to explain my boundaries again, but she will just turn it into an argument. A few years ago I decided that I can't handle spending time with my mom anymore. I don't like how she treats me, I don't ... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w6fql2/aitj_if_i_just_let_my_mom_be_confused_about_our/ | null | 34 | 20 | NTJ. You've clarified plenty of times, she just refuses to hear it. Explaining again won't change anything, it'll just be another fight she uses to play victim. | NTJ. Being polite isn’t the same thing as being close, you’re allowed to have one without the other. She’s just not used to someone setting a limit she can’t argue her way out of | I kinda feel like I have, but her reaction makes me wonder if I really am "playing games." I just want to be able to return a keepsake or attend my grandfather's memorial without drama. |
AITJ for leaving my coworker behind after she made me late to work three times | A couple of months ago my coworker \[26F\] blew the transmission on her sedan. We work the exact same 8:30 am shift at an insurance claims office, and she lives about eight minutes off my morning route. I \[28M\] offered to give her a ride to the office for a week while her car was in the shop. Simple courtesy. A week... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w6ensk/aitj_for_leaving_my_coworker_behind_after_she/ | null | 47 | 26 | NTJ She has been abusing a kindness that you offered for far too long and just recently found out the consequences. | You gave her a week. Should have stopped there. Why would you take her anywhere other than work? She can not force you to go get coffee - thats your choice. And if not ready on the agreed upon time I would just leave. If your coworkers are concerned, they can take over. | NTJ, but you should have texted ‘sorry, can’t wait today. Have an important meeting. This doesn’t work for me anymore so you’ll have to responsible for getting to work on your own moving forward.’ You let things get out of hand by driving her for 6 weeks and taking her for iced coffees. |
AITJ for stopping my share of mom's rent after I found out I was the only one paying? | When mom moved into her place three years ago the three of us agreed to cover the gap between her pension and the rent. It worked out at $400 each a month (her pension covers the rest). My brother arranged all of it, my sister and I agreed to it, and that was that. In July I was helping mom with a form and I saw her b... | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/comments/1w679n0/aitj_for_stopping_my_share_of_moms_rent_after_i/ | null | 965 | 141 | It’s a case of he didn’t have money “for that.” | Oh, I forgot to add, when I asked him WTF, he said, "My financial planner told me to, so I let mom know"... Dude didn't even have the stones to own it. Blamed it on his planner. | ESH. Everyone. But especially the brother and sister. They should each pay $600 til everything evens out. But OP also is screwing over their mom to prove a point. The mom should have told OP two years ago as well. |
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